Spectrum comments "he was a stone wall"

 Since Spectrum has become very censoring of comments by anyone who is not on the left I thought I would put my comments here. In this recent article 

He Was a Stone Wall, I Was Water: Gender and Fluidity at Margarette Falls

Evie Bates | March 1, 2024 | People

We read a sad case of someone with Gender Dysphoria. But it also has to be an attack on those who believe differently from the people at Spectrum. The saddest part of this story is that the writer seems to have never sought help for Gender Dysphoria. (see definition below.

The author writes: 

I was nine years old the first time I had the conscious thought that I did not align with the gender I was assigned at birth. I didn’t have any words to define myself. My education sheltered me from knowledge of LGBTQ identities beyond the fact that some men liked other men in a romantic way, and that was disgusting and perverted. I had no exposure to gender nonconformity. For all I knew, no other people felt the way I did. 

I knew, though, in the deepest part of my being. This caused no small controversy in my home. I made my first declaration of personhood perched on the bathroom counter with my mother fussing over me because I had tried to pierce my own ears. 

“I’m a girl,” I said. “I know you don’t think that’s possible but one day I’m going to be a grown-up, and you won’t be able to keep me from being a girl.” 

First we should never acknowledge the nonsense that one is assigned a gender at birth. The genetics and body parts reveal gender in a very accurate way. A doctor does not assign gender he or she records the sex of the infant. Being professionals on the human body this is very appropriate. There are a few very rare instances of true intersex people with genetic malformations and these may require more scientific studies to deal with the problems but these cases have nothing to do with what has been called transgenderism.

This appears very problematic and deserving of attention. The writer thinks that piercing ears for earrings is being a girl. Then the writer states that it is his parents and not nature itself that is keeping the writer from being a girl. The LGBT community activists do indeed pretend that a man can become a woman but physically it is impossible. One may change their appearance enough to pass in public but they have not become the other sex. That is why the LGBT activists focus on gender because gender is the linguistic technique for speaking of the sex of someone. Language of course is a societal construction so they then say that gender is simply a construction of society. But of course, all language is a creation of society so that is just an excuse to try and say gender and sex are different when they both refer to the genetic makeup of male and females. 

Autumn rain fell as I spent a day dressed as myself a few cities away where no one would recognize me. Wearing women’s clothing did not make me transgender. It did, however, confirm who I was—who I would be one day.

Again we see what appears to be a psychological problem that dressing a certain way is the way the writer feels like himself (yes I am going to use the actual linguistic words for male and female. It is too hard and confusing to do otherwise.) The writer says that women's clothing did not make him transgender but it  did "confirm who I was—who I would be one day." Again clothes do not make someone a man or a woman and even if he wears female clothes in the future that will not cause a sex change to actually be a woman.

In part, I believed this for myself, but I knew that my mind and my body were not the same. Mike could end my internal war. He could explain and resolve my dysmorphia.

How would he know that his mind and body were not the same? This is developed from the false idea that someone could have the wrong mind for their body.  The mind is part of the body, it is the same brain that the rest of the body has. 

The writer uses the term dysmorphia which is inaccurate or at least nothing is noted in the article to arrive at the idea that the writer has dysmorphia. The medical definition is: 

"a condition in which part of the body is a different shape from normal:" 

 body dysmorphia)

Some people use dysmorphia to refer to a condition in which someone falsely believes there is something wrong with the size or shape of their body:

It is hard to believe that someone from a ministry called Coming Out would help with dysmorphia.

He told me I shouldn’t transition because I would look like Caitlyn Jenner. He said I would spend thousands on hair implants, plastic surgery, augmentation, and more. He wanted me to know that she was still unhappy after spending all that money. She could never feel happy trying to be a woman because she would never be one. She was filling a hole in her life that only the peace of Jesus could fill, Mike told me. He consistently misgendered her.

This is a common technique that the LGBT activists use. If one uses the appropriate language of the society when referring to the sex of an individual they will say it is misgendering if they are not using the pronouns that the person with gender dysphoria wants to use. As if the societal norms should be redefined based upon what someone wants their preferred pronoun to be. This leads to lots of confusion which you see in numerous articles written by people afraid to be named as misgendering.

The writer then writes two paragraphs that contradict each other.

He told me I would never be happy with my face in the mirror if I transitioned. It could never be enough, because no matter how hard I might try, I would always be a man, he said. He called my thoughts sinful, and told me to surrender them and repent...

I was confused because I had never been attracted to men, and he believed transgender identity comes from homosexual attraction. I was confused because I had known I was a girl a decade before I had the opportunity to dress as one, but he believed wearing women’s clothes made me question my gender. I was confused because the best argument he could give against transition was that I would be ugly. 

 The best argument he gave was that he would always be a man! That is because you cannot change your genetics. You can have surgeries and hormones to affect some physical attributes but it never changes the genetic reality.

The author then declares: 

I am a woman. God made me a woman and gave me the tools to discover that. I look in the mirror and see the face I always saw when I closed my eyes before—no wigs, hair implants, or plastic surgery required. My body feels like home.

I wonder how the author defines a woman? As with most in the LGBT activist community, they can no longer define woman. But declarations don't make something true. My declaration of being a Billionaire strangely has not made me a Billionaire. But I will let you know when my fantasy becomes a reality.

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Table 2.

DSM-5 Criteria for Gender Dysphoria (20)

A marked incongruence between one’s experienced/expressed gender and natal gender of at least 6 months in duration, as manifested by at least two of the following:

A.

A marked incongruence between one’s experienced/expressed gender and primary and/or secondary sex characteristics (or in young adolescents, the anticipated secondary sex characteristics)

B.

A strong desire to be rid of one’s primary and/or secondary sex characteristics because of a marked incongruence with one’s experienced/expressed gender (or in young adolescents, a desire to prevent the development of the anticipated secondary sex characteristics)

C.

A strong desire for the primary and/or secondary sex characteristics of the other gender

D.

A strong desire to be of the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s designated gender)

E.

A strong desire to be treated as the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s designated gender)

F.

A strong conviction that one has the typical feelings and reactions of the other gender (or some alternative gender different from one’s designated gender)

The condition is associated with clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning. Specify if:

A.

The condition exists with a disorder of sex development.

B.

The condition is post-transitional, in that the individual has transitioned to full-time living in the desired gender (with or without legalization of gender change) and has undergone (or is preparing to have) at least one sex-related medical procedure or treatment regimen—namely, regular sex hormone treatment or gender reassignment surgery confirming the desired gender (e.g., penectomy, vaginoplasty in natal males; mastectomy or phalloplasty in natal females).

From: Medical Interventions for Transgender Youth

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